“Damn, why did I text him that?”
“Should I call him?”
We’ve all been here before. We’ve all been to that place where we’re questioning every move we make with someone new. Sometimes it’s hard to find that balance between giving too much attention and not giving enough.
It always seems easy not to do too much when you’re not yet sure how you feel about the person. But in my experience, once you decide that you do actually have feelings for that person, you start to lose your mind a little bit. People always say that you should let the guy chase because men love to chase, right? But it’s hard to do that once I realize that I share his feelings. I just get so excited…I wanna make sure he knows I want him just as much as he wants me. Suddenly I forget everything I’ve been told…I disregard all the rules. Who made these stupid rules anyway?
On the flip side, sometimes I give the impression that I’m not interested at all when I really am. I’ve been told that I can be kind of cold. I think it’s just my way of trying to protect myself. Initially I don’t want to give too much and invest too much in someone emotionally, because what if it doesn’t work out?? I don’t like to feel stupid. And I definitely don’t like to be hurt.
The cold hearted person in me also often takes issue with the man who seemingly gives too much attention in the beginning of a courtship. I find myself wondering what his motives are. Is he desperate? Is he just trying ok have sex with me? Is he being genuine? I often think that he can’t possibly be as interested in me as he seems. That’s probably a result of my insecurities and low self esteem. So I almost always push this type of man away….only a man who is truly persistent will get me to let my guard down.
So how do you find that balance? How do you keep yourself from calling him every hour on the hour or completely shutting down because you don’t wanna seem desperate? How much is too much? I really need to know…
How do I even describe the way you made me feel? The fantasizing…the flirting…the quick glances…the long stares…the stolen touches…the final night…all unforgettable. It started with a taste for something sweet. You always seemed to have a sweet tooth. I offered you something sweet and it was an offer you couldn’t refuse.
The nights leading up to that night were good….but I don’t know if my words can do justice to how amazing that final night was. I must say, you caught me by surprise. The kiss. The compliments. The touching. None of those things could have revealed what you had in store for me that night.
Our clothes come off pretty quickly and soon I am on the desk. I can’t wait to feel you inside me. That first couple minutes, when you’re easing inside me, taking your time, slowly pushing in…..they feel so damn good. I never told you this, but I love the first couple minutes. In those minutes, I begin to feel all the pent up sexual frustration come out. You fuck me for a while on top of that desk but soon I want more. It’s time for me to be in control. I sit you on that chair and ride your dick like it’s my job. Even though I’m on top and “in control”, I do everything you tell me to do while I’m riding you. There’s something about your confidence that makes me wanna do everything you say. I know you can get bored quickly if you’re doing the same thing for too long. So it isn’t long until you’re behind me…pulling me into you. You give it to me hard, fast and rough. You know I like it rough, right? By this time, I am so turned on that I will let you do anything to me. Next thing you know, I’m bent over the desk and feeling your tongue on my pussy. Before this night, I never felt your tongue move as fast as it did nor have I ever felt it move in and out of me the way it did. I kinda feel cheated. But I guess I’ll forgive you for that. That tongue of yours….damn…that’s the only word I have for it right now. Apparently when you put that tongue and those lips all over my pussy, your dick gets even harder. And I love I hard dick. We fuck some more on that desk until you decide that you want that hard dick in my mouth. I don’t protest of course. As I put you inside my mouth, I wonder how I can turn you on even more. I lick and I suck and I get it real wet….it feels good in my mouth. Damn. That dick. After that dick is good and wet and you are more turned on than ever, you enter me again. Soon we are on our way to our final destination for the night, the table. This table isn’t new to us, but it feels different on this night. I’m ready for you to fuck me like you’ve never fucked me before and you don’t disappoint. I know the end is near, but I’m ready for it. You fuck me and fuck me and fuck me and I can feel your excitement building. I love that. I can’t wait to make you cum….
It’s all over and I don’t even know where the time went. Like I said, my words can’t even do justice to the way you made me feel that night. My pussy is sore and I am more exhausted than ever. But it was most definitely worth it. My mind may not remember every single detail of that night but my pussy sure does.
By the way, I think you redeemed yourself ; )
This will probably make me sound conceited, but I am no stranger to getting male attention. Men are really interested in me for some reason. Sometimes I like it, sometimes I don’t. But I almost never seek this attention.
So of course, with my luck, my ability to attract male attention is turning me into the office whore. Because every single man at my workplace seems to be interested in me right now, people think I am definitely fucking them all. I kinda wish I was fucking them now…then maybe the rumors wouldn’t be so bad.
When I first started working at this place, people barely paid any attention to me. Most people didn’t even know my last name until like 6 months into my employment. And I was ok with that. I was perfectly fine with not being the center of attention. I don’t know what the hell happened but slowly but surely, men started coming out of the woodworks confessing their feelings for me. This made no sense to me…it still doesn’t really make much sense to me. I barely wear makeup at work. I really don’t deviate much from business casual attire. I am not as outspoken as the rest of my employees. I don’t get it. Why are these men so into me right now? Is it this nice girl thing that I have going on? Is it curiosity? I don’t know what it is. But I do know that I would prefer not to be the subject of office gossip.
What the hell am I doing wrong? How do I get some of the attention off of me? Somebody please help me because if I don’t figure this out soon, this is gonna be one long summer…
Men aren’t really as particular as women when it comes to sex. Most of the time, they’re just happy to be getting some. But, that doesn’t mean that they’ll settle for just anything. A while back, I wrote a post for men about the things they do (or don’t do) in bed that really bother us. Well ladies, now it’s our turn. I surveyed several men and they were very clear about the things that they don’t want from us…and I’ll admit, they made some good points. What do you think, Ladies? Men, did I forget anything?
Do not brag to your man about how good your sex/head game is if you don’t plan to follow through. It better be as good as you say it is.
And speaking of head game, if you know you’re bad at giving oral sex, just don’t do it.
Be on top of your personal hygiene. Make sure it’s smelling nice and looking right…I mean, it doesn’t have to be perfect but he will notice if you haven’t been taking care of yourself.
Don’t push him off when he’s trying to go deeper. Relax and enjoy yourself.
He loves it when you get on top, but don’t overstay your welcome…give him back the control.
Don’t be afraid to switch it up every once and a while, you don’t want to bore him.
But, don’t change positions every 5 minutes…it’s sex, not circuit training.
It’s ok to fuck every once and a while. It doesn’t have to be a passionate love-making session every time.
Don’t put anything near his butt or introduce any sex toys (to be used on him), unless he has already expressed interest in these things. You probably won’t like his response.
Don’t stroke him after he’s climaxed…he’s too sensitive.
And finally, don’t lie there like a dead fish. Don’t be lazy…have fun!
The New Year is here, and it’s only right that I take the time to reflect on the things that 2012 has brought to my relationships. Relationship-wise, 2012 has been my most challenging year; the events of this year have had me questioning a lot of things and people, especially myself. Thankfully, I’ve emerged with some lessons learned. These are just a few things that this crazy year has made clear for me:
Men are generally pretty straightforward with their intentions…you just have to be paying attention.
Refusing to give a person a 3rd, 4th or 5th chance isn’t giving up…sometimes you just have to walk away.
When it comes to relationships, fresh starts are scary but sometimes necessary.
Just because it’s familiar, doesn’t mean it’s the best thing for you. Sometimes a person is just meant to be a friend.
Honesty really is the best policy…lies make everything harder in the long run.
Sometimes it’s really difficult to have a friend of the opposite sex (especially if he/she is attractive), but it’s not impossible
I don’t have any new year’s resolutions for my love life. I just hope I continue to learn and grow. I’ve reached some real lows this year so I guess things can only get better from here.
They say hindsight is 20/20. When looking back at a relationship gone wrong, we always notice things that we didn’t notice before. There are often red flags that we ignore when first start dating or begin a serious relationship with someone, because we’re too caught up in the whirlwind of it all. I am certainly guilty of this. Based on my experiences, these are the red flags that I think should make you take a step back (if not completely walk away):
He/she is short tempered/easily angered
He/she is very secretive
He/she easily lies about small things- If they can lie with ease about the small things, what else will they lie about?
He/she is just coming out of a relationship- You don’t want to be the rebound girl/guy.
He is a sweet talker-Women, there’s nothing wrong with a little flattery from a man, but a man who is a chronic sweet talker is likely just telling you what you want to hear.
He has lots of female friends/she has lots of male friends
He/she constantly criticizes or belittles you- If their sole purpose in life is to make you feel small, walk away immediately…things will only get worse.
He/she is overly jealous- A little jealously is flattering, too much can be dangerous.
He/she is possessive- If they’re changing their Facebook relationship status to “In a Relationship” with you after a week, there is a real problem.
He/she goes through your things
He/she stands you up- If someone stands you up, they are not worth your time. It doesn’t take much effort at all to pick up the phone and cancel a date.
He/she “disappears” for days/weeks at a time- He’s just not that into you.
He/she keeps you a secret
He/she has been in numerous failed marriages/serious relationships
He/she has potentially dangerous habits (alcohol addiction, drug addiction, gambling addiction, etc.)
He/she is constantly on the phone- If they don’t respect you enough to put the phone down and pay attention to you, you need to keep it moving.
He/she never wants to go out
He/she has more than one phone/number (and it’s not for business)
He/she is too sexual too soon- There’s definitely a time to spice things up and get freaky, but 2 weeks into dating just isn’t that time
He/she pressures you for sex and/or moves too fast
He/she has never been in a long term relationship
He/she never invites you to their place- What (or who) are they hiding?
You have to pay for almost everything
He/she doesn’t take pride in their appearance/ makes no effort to take care of their body
I don’t think that you should immediately count a person out after you notice a red flag, but you should definitely proceed with caution. It could save you a world of heartache down the line.
Full disclosure: I love sex. I like everything leading up to it, everything that happens during the act and everything after; I am no prude. But I haven’t always been this way, so I take pride in my newfound sexual prowess and love of sex. Even with my new attitude on sex, there are still many things that I haven’t tried and I have a long way to go before I can call myself an expert. Sooo, I’ve created a sex bucket list—a list of sexual things that I would like to try before I die. Here is my list…don’t judge me (although I really don’t care if you do):
Sex on the beach (yea, it’s cliché, I know)
Sex on a balcony
Sex on a rooftop
Sex in an elevator
Sex at a drive-in movie theatre (yes, they still exist)
Sex in a (clean) public bathroom
Sex using handcuffs
Sex on a swing
Sex while blindfolded
Sex in a limo
Sex in the rain (bonus points if it’s during a hurricane)
Sex in a dressing room
Sex with a masseuse
Any suggestions for crossing something off my list? What’s on your sexual bucket list??